It has been shown as mentioned in our previous articles that college students are initiating their sex life later on in life
Now, having sex is a normal part of human nature, it is a way for you and your partner to take your relationship to a more intimate level. Your first time can be a bit nerve wracking as occurs with other scenarios in life when we do them for the first time.
Here is a guide to knowing how to be prepared, and what to expect on your first time having intercourse. We have sought some help to laydown these key points by the University of Michigan’s Initiative titled Her Campus.
This article is useful to females who may be considering having sexual intercourse for the first time, and also for males who benefit in learning the concerns and needs of females.
Will it Hurt?
Reena Liberman, MS, a private practice sex therapist in Ann Arbor, MI, explains that “intercourse may feel uncomfortable at first, but the pain shouldn’t be too overwhelming.”
The hymen is a tissue that tears and may cause a slight sensation such as pinch. There may also be bleeding depending on the person, sometimes the hymen is torn while applying a tampon, during masturbation, or by doing a strenuous activity. If you feel there is an excessive flow of blood then it maty be your period if not, there might be something off and you would want to get it checked out. We highly encourage the use of water-based lubricant to provide plenty lubrication which will make sex more pleasurable and easy for the first-timer. Sex may be uncomfortable at first but the idea that first penetration is supposed to hurt is a myth. The better relaxed, lubricated, and aroused you are, the higher the chances of having pain free intercourse.
Should I tell him I’m a Virgin?
Disclosing the fact that it is your first-time is up to you and what you feel comfortable with. “Instead of saying I was a virgin, I told my first partner that I was inexperienced and was feeling nervous,” Kayla*, a senior at Michigan State University, says. “I wasn’t lying; I really was inexperienced! But this way, your partner knows how you’re feeling and you don’t have to explain your virginity if you don’t want to.”
Is Foreplay Important?
Foreplay is very important, it makes sex more fun, pleasurable, and romantic! It is important to take your time and not rush into intercourse for being aroused is a key to making intercourse work for the best. Foreplay is a great part of the equation, enjoy it.
Will I reach an Orgasm?
It is very unlikely for women to reach an orgasm during their first intercourse. According to Liberman, the reasoning behind this is that the vaginal canal isn’t the most sensitive area, and so it’s more common for women to orgasm when other areas, such as the clitoris, are stimulated. This is why foreplay is important!
What if I am Nervous?
A senior at the University of Michigan, says it’s okay to be nervous, but that girls should also feel like they are ready to make the decision before they do. “Wait until you are absolutely certain that you are ready to have sex,” she says. “You should realize that sex can be scary, but can also be pleasurable, exciting and a wonderful way to connect with another person. To lessen anxiety, you should become comfortable with your body and with your partner. Knowing beforehand exactly what you would or would not be comfortable with doing is important.”
You may have expectations for your first time, but keep in mind that it’s different for every person. Just remember that it should be your decision and no one else’s. And keep in mind that a positive view on sexuality, consent, and protective barriers such as condoms are important to every sexual relationship.
By: Peer Educator Geneva Nieto
