In the book he tackles the issues of Modern dating and compares it to how dating was for our parents and grandparents. TIME magazine features an article on Aziz and his book. The article goes on to explain how in the age of social media, apps have become a way of meeting people; but have also become a way of making it hard to really get to know someone you may be potentially interested in. He states how “in the history of our species, no group has ever had as many romantic options as we have now.”
The theory should then be that because there are more options to choose from or more “fish in the sea”, it should be easier to find someone you can date and make it work, but the reality has told a different story. This stems from the fact that we often don’t know what we want, we may only know what we don’t want from a romantic partner, making it that much easier to disregard (or swipe left) on someone who could be a potential great match for us.
He also explains why arranged marriages, like that of his parents, resulted to be successful and that true happiness was achievable for them. He says that this stems from the fact that they were able to bypass the hard part of the relationship, the part where you are so in love you can barely think. And then when this high of love vanishes after the first 12-18 months, you are left only with compassionate love, a type of love that not everyone is willing to reciprocate.
What he concludes in the article is that giving up at the “danger point” of the relationship may seem like the right thing for many people, but that he will continue to invest in his relationship and try to make it work, just as his father did for 30 faithful years.
By: Peer Educator Jovana Nieto
