It can be pretty easy to get caught up in the day to day demands of life. In the process it is very likely that we lose sense of our feelings, our true aches, and desires. And we can lose touch of our own feelings making it very difficult for us to acknowledge various realities of our personal life.
How can we not be in touch with our own feelings? There are two parts of our mental make-up that is the Feeling Self and the Observer Self
Why is it so difficult for the Observer Self to report accurately on feelings?
That is because not all feelings are easy to deal with and express, they go against the notion we have had instilled in us since childhood. That of the “good boy” and “good girl”
That is, instead of accepting and acknowledging such feelings which will make us feel vulnerable, fragile, humiliated, and embarrassed, we would rather block them out and become numb to them.
Yet feelings which have not been confronted to do not go away but rather linger on and make an appearance on other issues.
How can we then deal with these feelings?
- You can read for writers are people with the patience to lay out scenarios and descriptions of human feelings and motives
- You can have an afternoon to yourself and just sit and do nothing such as looking out your window with a pen and paper in hand giving your Observant Self a chance to catch up with the shy, humiliating feelings of the Feeling Self
It is recommended to address such feelings in this manner in the evening for they can follow us on into the night and make it impossible and difficult to sleep. For insomnia is the revenge of the Feeling Self.
We can also use this knowledge to better interact with those around us understanding that someone might be arrogant because they are feeling small, they might be mean because they are hurt.
By: Peer Educator Geneva Nieto
